Candle Light Service

HEARTBEAT is peer support offering empathy, encouragement and direction following the suicide of a loved one.

PRELUDE:

We are here to remember those we loved who have died.  At the center of our being is an awareness of an end to a valued relationship. Our hearts ache, our tears flow.  We feel a deep, tender wound because someone precious is no longer part of our life on earth.  We grieve because of that physical absence, but we also rejoice to have known that love.


OPENING

LEADER:

We are not alone in our grief, our tears and our memories.

ALL:

We reach out to one another with love, with understanding and with hope.  Those we loved who have died unite us.  Your pain becomes my pain.  Your joy becomes my joy.  Your hope is my hope.  Some of us are far along in our grieving; others still experience grief so fresh and intensely painful that we feel helpless and see no hope.

Some of us have found our faith to be a source of strength; some of us are angry; some filled with guilt or in deep depression; others glow with inner peace.  Whatever pain we bring to this gathering, it is pain we share.  Even as we struggle to rebuild our lives we reach out to one another in love.  We will share joy as well as pain.  We will share peace of mind as well as anger.  We will share faith as well as doubt.  We will help one another to grow as well as grieve.

We are not alone.

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REMEMBER ME

To the living, I am gone.
To the sorrowful, I will never return.
To the angry, they were cheated.

But to the joyful, I am at peace.
And to the faithful, I never left.

I cannot speak, but I can listen.
I cannot be seen, but I can be heard.

So as you stand upon a shore,
Gazing at a beautiful sea….

REMEMBER ME
As you look in awe at a might
Forest and its grand majesty…
REMEMBER ME
As you look upon a flower and
Admire its simplicity…
REMEMBER ME
Remember me in your heart, your thoughts,
Remember the close, loving times we shared;
The times we cried; the times we quarreled;
The times we laughed.

For in these times that you gently remember me
….I am not gone.


CANDLELIGHTING:

The flame of the candle in our center symbolizes remembrance.  As we light our own candle in memory of our loved one, let us do so with gratitude that they lived and that we shared their life for a time.

As we pass the flame of remembrance from one to another let this tiny light also represent our own rebirth and renewal as we seek meaning in life without these we loved; as we strive for joy, peace and happiness; as we look to future's promise with our surviving loved ones and share our lives.

IN TURN, AS YOU LIGHT YOUR CANDLE FROM YOUR NEIGHBORS:

I light this candle in remembrance of _________________________________.

(You may wish to say a few words about your loved one.)


RESPONSIVE READING
From Gates of Prayer, Reform Judasim Prayerbook

In the rising of the sun and its going down,
     WE REMEMBER THEM.

In the blowing of the wind and in the chill of winter,
     WE REMEMBER THEM.

In the opening of the buds and in the rebirth of spring,
     WE REMEMBER THEM.

At the blueness of the skies and in the warmth of summer,
     WE REMEMBER THEM.

At the rustling of the leaves and in the beauty of autumn,
     WE REMEMBER THEM.

At the beginning of the year and when it ends
     WE REMEMBER THEM.

When we are lost and sick at heart,
     WE REMEMBER THEM.

When we have joys we yearn to share,
     WE REMEMBER THEM.

As long as we live, they too shall live,
For they are now a part of us.
     WE REMEMBER THEM.

LOOK INTO THE FLAME OF YOUR CANDLE … CLOSE YOUR EYES … WITH EYES CLOSED, BLOW OUT YOUR CANDLE … YOU WILL SEE THE FLAME STILL GLOWS BEHIND YOUR CLOSED EYES.  AND SO IT IS WITH OUR MEMORIES. 

MAY YOU FIND JOY IN THE SEASON.
MAY YOU FIND PEACE IN IT'S REASON.
MAY YOU FIND BLESSINGS IN CHRISTMAS.

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